Can you perceive that who you are, what you are, where you are, and the situation you find yourself in, are all a result of choices you have made? If you are in great shape, it is all a result of the choices you have made.
If you choose to
(1) Exercise regularly;
(2) Eat right (limiting the fats, sodium and sugar you consume);
(3) Don’t smoke and
(4) Consume a minimum of 3-5 servings of fruit and vegetables daily
..Then welcome to a very exclusive club of the top 3% of the American population.
Unbelievably, only 3 % of all Americans follow the 4 simple principles to health & fitness listed above.
97% of Americans make the choice to be less fit and less healthy.
All of the choices you make, in all aspects of your life, lead you to who, what and where you are and who, what and where you will be. Hopefully, you have already started the journey along the long, hard, challenging road to maximizing your potential as a human being. Hopefully, you have chosen self-development over-self pity.
If you haven’t, don’t self-destruct, because no matter how far you have traveled down the wrong road…TURN BACK! It is that simple! Far too many people, people capable of having wonderful, fulfilling lives, never stop to perform an honest self-assessment, to truly determine the “real” reason why “everyone and everything is against them.”
They lack the courage to look inside themselves and discover the flaws within them that result in their own self-destruction.
It is easier for them to blame the boss for their getting fired instead of doing an honest self-assessment of their job performance. It is easier for them to blame the credit card companies for their financial ruin, instead of doing an honest self-assessment of their money management. It is easier for them to blame their spouse for their divorce instead of doing an honest self-assessment of the attitude and effort they brought to their marriage. It is easier for them to blame the police officer for their DUI instead of doing an honest self –assessment of their irresponsible drinking.
Without question, all of us, at some time in our lives, choose the easier road, choose to do what we WANT to do, instead of what we NEED to do.
Unfortunately, if we choose the easier road too many times, we end up at a destination we don’t want to be. And of course we conveniently forget the choices we made and can only conclude that it must be someone else or something else at fault for why we are in such a terrible situation.
The wise man once said “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”
If you want a different result you need to do something different. The first thing you need to do is an honest self-assessment. This is the most difficult step for many reasons, but probably the biggest reason is the stranglehold self-delusion has on you. Self-delusion has reached epidemic proportions world-wide.
(My personal opinion is that self-delusion is the number one reason for the obesity epidemic in the U.S.A. Research shows that the majority of Americans overestimate by 40% the amount of calories they expend daily on physical activity and underestimate by 40% the amount of calories they consume daily. Do the math and it will be no surprise to anyone why obesity is spiraling out of control.)
If you continually delude yourself into believing you are “Near-Perfect” mentally, emotionally, physically, socially, artistically, professionally and personally, and that your character, compassion, generosity and honesty are near- perfect, then you have my apologies…I have wasted your time in sending this to you.
Or, if you believe the above list is a waste of time, unimportant or irrelevant…again, you have my apologies. Or, if you believe that you and the situation you are in is hopeless, then please, please, please… READ ON!
You don’t need to get your hopes up. You don’t need to believe in me or the system I am about to share with you. You just have to DO IT! For those of you that read all the books I put on my Recommended Reading List, you will recognize this system as described in “Ben Franklin’s Autobiography.”
This is the same self-development system Ben Franklin used to become one of the most accomplished, most successful men of all time. Begin with your honest self-assessment and put down on paper your strengths and weaknesses.
Next, ask someone who knows you well, someone can trust, and ask for their help in performing the same exercise. If their assessment of you is significantly different than yours, try to discover why.
Is self-delusion the reason…or something else?
Next, pick the biggest weakness, the one you think is holding you back from success, and print it on the top left-hand corner of a 3×5 index card.
Set-up the card with the days of the week and draw a line horizontally in the middle of the card and make six vertical, evenly-spaced lines in order to make columns for each day of the week.
Label each column at the top: M, Tu, W, Th, F, Sa, Su.
When you finish, it should look like this: (I will use “procrastination” as an example of a characteristic to work on):
Each time you make a positive step toward curing yourself of “procrastination,” give yourself a “+” above the line, and when you succumb to procrastination give yourself a “-” below the line.
Before you go to bed each night, total the “+’s” and “-’s”, write the number on the card in the appropriate day and square and circle it for quick reference.
Review the card each morning and continuously strive for improvement. You will see improvement day-by-day. Sunday night, prepare a new card with a different characteristic to work on.
Ben Franklin worked on seven characteristics.
After seven weeks he would begin again on the first of seven and continue on, week-after-week, month-after-month, year-after-year, relentlessly striving to perfect all seven.
The results of Ben’s relentless drive made him one of the all-time greatest men who ever lived.
And that, my friend, is exactly what I am looking for… from YOU!
CEO of IFPA